Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Wednesday Wanderings...

I don't have any one complete thought in my head why not string together a few random thoughts instead....

First off - Sandra Bullock, you seriously rock. What an amazing role model you are. I've always admired you along the road of your career and now so many women can admire you for your smart choices. I'm so glad you're flicking Jesse James away like unwanted lint on the shoulder of a new cashmere sweater. Tough things happen to all of us along the way, but I really believe that it's the way you handle those tough times that make or break you as a person going forward in life. Way to move forward in positivity!  Hit the Road, Jack...erm Jesse. Sandra, I wish you all the best for love and happiness with baby Louis. Now there's even more to admire about you. Brava!

Ok, now I know all of you out there have plenty of TV to watch, but I'd like to draw your attention to a new(ish) show that has totally captured the attention of my husband and I -- Justified.  Ladies, if you like  Elmore Leonard (the show's inspration), if you like a show that keeps you guessing, if you like a show that makes you think and has compelling action...I suggest you give it a try. Oh, and I can't forget to mention that the lead character Raylan Givens happens to be played by some serious eye candy, Timothy Olyphant. Here's a link to a great piece by TV Guide expounding on the top 6 reasons you should be watching Justified. With the exception of a few network shows, it's really interesting for me to note that many of my favorites are on cable channels these days. Better keep up ABC, NBC, CBS and're losing ground.

As for real life....I've been struggling with the theme of "how to please others while pleasing yourself" lately. It's a real tough one to figure out. Whether with friends, at work, or with family...there are so many times I feel like I'm being tested. Should I do what's right for me or right for others? So often I give in and do what's right for other people, all while being frustrated because that decision isn't usually what's right for me. Is that the right decision? I don't know...I think it can make us unhappy and bitter. The real question is, how do you do what's best for yourself, your goals and future without pissing off everyone in your orbit? Now, there's a challenge!

I'm trying to focus on the positive these days. No more allowing myself to get sucked into the vortex of negativity and snarkiness (which is tough because I love to be snarky!). I'm working on giving myself a mental slap when I start. Let's all take the high ground together, no matter what...ok? Let's trust that the Universe always has our back. What you give out returns to you, right? So what do you really want to get? I really want to attract good, happy things...and abundance. So I need to adjust my attitude to reflect that. It will take time for the habit to form. Kinda like learning to take your vitamins, right?

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

So....Where Am I Headed?

Welcome to the inside of my brain. :)

So many things to post about, so little time. In my world, responsibility and obligation are four letter words. I'm constantly overwhelmed by them. Whether it's making time to visit both sets of out-of-town in-laws, stressing about work and finances, trying to keep up with friends, decisions about our married future or attempting to renovate our new (old) can easily drown emotionally in the tidal wave of to-do's and other people's needs.

In thinking about being bombarded by all these things, it's tough to keep a positive outlook. Lately I've been really frustrated, over tired and frankly feeling held hostage by it all. My amazing husband and I started taking walks together after work in the evenings and one night as I'm ranting he reminded me of something I taught him about...the Law of Attraction.

Many months ago I suggested he read Louise Hay's book You Can Heal Your Life. It was a game changer for me...and interestingly he really took to it too. In fact, part of my blog title comes from a mantra of Louise's that has infiltrated my subconscious for the past several years -- "In the Infinity of Life where I am, all is perfect, whole and complete. All is well in my world."  I find it calming, it gets me back on track and reminds me that everything will be ok.

If Louise Hay isn't for you, there are many other books and films that talk and teach about the Law of Attraction. The Secret is probably one of the most famous out there now. I enjoy listening to the audio versions during my commute to work.

Most people will read this and think I'm a nutcase...Law of Attraction? The Secret? Mantras? She's koo-koo crazy!  But really, what it's all about is positivity and the belief that what you put out there you get back. Like attracts like. So if you're putting out consistant thoughts of worry, upset, disappointment, and lack...sorry, but all you're going to attract to you is more worry, upset, disappointment and lack. Instead, focus on the positive, what you DO have, be grateful, thankful and believe that you have all that you need. That attitude shift is the key to a whole new world.

So here experiment in applying the Law of Attraction to the issues of the modern woman. Whether it's my struggles in balancing private time with career....maintaining friendships....navigating a new marriage...or deciding whether to have children, I have more on my plate than I can handle...but no more than most other people. I think the difference is outlook and how you handle it. Right?